Sometimes we are loyal to the wrong people
Have you ever had a friend you would do anything for?
Have you ever had a friend you were almost in love with?
Yes? And you ask yourself what is the problem with it.
Have you ever asked yourself if the person you would do anything for, would do the same?
And now let's think about this friend(let's name it 0).
A lot of people have an abusive friend without noticing it because just like in love, you are blindfolded by the awesomeness of this friend.
So there is this friend (0) that is beautiful and so self-confident. And you want 0 to like you , you want 0s attention. So you turn into slave and you do anything. You are there whenever 0 calls, writes, shows up. You are always there with your shoulder ready. And whenever 0 needs any kind of help you feel obligated to help. With time, with money...
And then comes the time when you feel down and you need someone and you know who is the first person you are going to call... 0.
But suddenly 0 doesn't have time and 0 just tells you that you will be ok and you should stop thinking about it because there are people who have it worse. And you think,yeah 0 is right. And it's okay 0 doesn't have time. Again. Because it's not the first time.
And you start thinking about all the other things. Like you never do what you would like to because it's mostly stupid and boring. And all the mistakes that you have done will never be forgotten and you always have to hear how stupid you had to be to do that. And all the things you do wrong. And all your opinions are stupid. Have you noticed that 0 never agrees with you? 0 always has something against and you are never right. And those jokes about you that are not funny at all and that you don't like but you laugh because if not then you are boring again.
And you probably try to explain it with that this how 0 is as a person and you are going to accept that because it's your friend... But
What about you?
What about your feelings? What about your jokes? What about your opinions? What about your heart?
Why should they be worth less?
Maybe no one has told you but you matter. Not more or less.
You are allowed to say what you think, that it hurts and that you don't like it. Say it. Say what you think. And if 0 tells you that it means you're a bad friend, maybe it's right and you will never be good enough... for 0.
And that is okay because you are worth a friendship that fulfills. A friendship where there is no rights or wrongs, but just differences. Where one pushes the other forward. A friendship that has time. A friendship that is true.
The painful truth! ←
And if you were nodding while reading this and you realized that you might have an abusive friend then maybe it's time to think and change something. And I know you all can do it.
So stand up to your abusive friend and say stop, that's enough.
It's hard to let someone go. But it's just better to feel good and happy.
Because in your own life you matter more than anyone, especially than anyone who is making you feel worse.
Good Luck & Have Fun!
Have you ever had a friend you were almost in love with?
Yes? And you ask yourself what is the problem with it.
Have you ever asked yourself if the person you would do anything for, would do the same?
And now let's think about this friend(let's name it 0).
A lot of people have an abusive friend without noticing it because just like in love, you are blindfolded by the awesomeness of this friend.
So there is this friend (0) that is beautiful and so self-confident. And you want 0 to like you , you want 0s attention. So you turn into slave and you do anything. You are there whenever 0 calls, writes, shows up. You are always there with your shoulder ready. And whenever 0 needs any kind of help you feel obligated to help. With time, with money...
And then comes the time when you feel down and you need someone and you know who is the first person you are going to call... 0.
But suddenly 0 doesn't have time and 0 just tells you that you will be ok and you should stop thinking about it because there are people who have it worse. And you think,yeah 0 is right. And it's okay 0 doesn't have time. Again. Because it's not the first time.
And you start thinking about all the other things. Like you never do what you would like to because it's mostly stupid and boring. And all the mistakes that you have done will never be forgotten and you always have to hear how stupid you had to be to do that. And all the things you do wrong. And all your opinions are stupid. Have you noticed that 0 never agrees with you? 0 always has something against and you are never right. And those jokes about you that are not funny at all and that you don't like but you laugh because if not then you are boring again.
And you probably try to explain it with that this how 0 is as a person and you are going to accept that because it's your friend... But
What about you?
What about your feelings? What about your jokes? What about your opinions? What about your heart?
Why should they be worth less?
Maybe no one has told you but you matter. Not more or less.
You are allowed to say what you think, that it hurts and that you don't like it. Say it. Say what you think. And if 0 tells you that it means you're a bad friend, maybe it's right and you will never be good enough... for 0.
And that is okay because you are worth a friendship that fulfills. A friendship where there is no rights or wrongs, but just differences. Where one pushes the other forward. A friendship that has time. A friendship that is true.
The painful truth! ←
And if you were nodding while reading this and you realized that you might have an abusive friend then maybe it's time to think and change something. And I know you all can do it.
So stand up to your abusive friend and say stop, that's enough.
It's hard to let someone go. But it's just better to feel good and happy.
Good Luck & Have Fun!
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